My Number 1. Tip for Stress-Free Entertaining

About a month before Fergal was born we decided to have a few friends around for dinner. And even though it was a lovely evening I was kicking myself, metaphorically, for most of the night.

You see, I’d broken my own cardinal rule of entertaining. And boy did it come back to bite me!

I found myself 8-ish months pregnant, trying to rush to get everything prepared in time. And failing miserably. I’m afraid to admit I was stressed out and frazzled.

It was all my fault.

So what is this Number 1. rule of Stress-free entertaining?


Where did I go wrong?

I’m sharing this so you can learn from my mistakes AND as a reminder to myself not to fall into the same trap this silly season…

1. Serving a hot starter
(potato rosti) that had to be pan fried at the last minute.Especially problematic for 10 people.

2. Last minute changes.
Choosing a dish for our one vegetarian (spiced fried halloumi) that needed to be pan fried at the last minute.

3. Having two meat based main courses.
For some reason I got it in my head there wouldn’t be enough food so I decided to cook some chorizo at the last minute to go with the slow roast lamb.

4. Too many sides!
I couldn’t decide between a cauliflower and pomegranate salad, good old potato salad (to showcase our freshly picked home grown spuds), and some sort of leafy salad. So I decided to serve all three. Crazy.

5. Too many condiments.
Not only were there all those salads, I also went overboard with the condiments. Serving a red onion and coriander (cilantro) chutney as well as hummus.

Where did I go right?

It wasn’t all bad. And it’s a good reminder that you can still enjoy yourself even if you do get stressed along the way…

1. Enlisting help.
When the guests arrived, I admitted I was behind schedule and accepted all offers to help. Someone set the table. Someone squeezed lemons for the hummus.

2. Serving everything in the middle.
Much faster than plating up individual serves.

3. Relaxing as soon as all the food was on the table.
I had to remind myself that it was about the company and to forget about the food and focus on my guests.

4. Not pointing out the problems.
As a cook it’s easy to see every little mistake, but as I learned when I was designing chocolate biscuits (cookies) and running taste tests, if you tell someone about a flaw, they will notice it. But if ya don’t, they won’t.

5. Do-ahead dessert.
I’d made a lovely pear and chocolate tart that just needed to be sliced and served. Which I got one of our guests to do at the table so there was no need for me to disappear into the kitchen.


A stress-free entertaining menu

A big bowl of Roast Pistachios
Succulent Slow Roast Lamb with Spicy Beet Sauce
Moorish Baby Spinach & Pine Nut Salad
Fudgy Chocolate Cake recipe here


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Succulent Slow Roast Lamb

Lamb shoulder is my favourite cut for this because it’s less expensive and tends to be fattier so it stays super moist. Don’t be put off by the long cooking time, as you really don’t need to actually do anything 95% of the time.

Enough for 3-4
1 lamb shoulder (also called forequarter) bone in
A few dried chilli flakes, optional

1. Turn your oven to 180C (350F).

2. Sprinkle lamb with chilli, if using, and a good few pinches of sea salt flakes. Wrap lamb in two layers foil, sealing well. Place on a roasting tray.

3. Pop lamb in the oven and set your timer for 1 hour.

4. After the first hour, reduce the heat to 150C (300F). Continue to cook for another 4 hours or longer until the lamb is so tender you can cut it with a spoon (literally). You can cool and refrigerate.

5. Remove foil from the lamb and cook at 180C (350F) to brown. Carve and serve warm.

short on time – fast roast at 180C for about 2 hours total.

vegetarian / vegan – slow roast some field mushrooms instead. About 1 hour at 150C / 350F.

extra flavours – 2 tablespoons ground coriander seed, or finely slice 2 lemons and pop in the foil or a big bunch of thyme or rosemary.


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Spicy Beet Sauce

Roast beets are one of my all time favourite veg and so I just adore this sauce. If beets aren’t your thing serve the lamb with hummus instead.

This was inspired by the fabulous book ‘Jerusalem’ by Yotam Ottolenghi.

4 large beets, scrubbed
4-6 tablespoon creamy Greek style yoghurt
2 tablespoons za’atar
1 clove garlic
3 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil

1. Wrap beets in foil individually and bake for about 1 hour at 180C (350F). Or until tender.

2. Cool beets and purée in your food processor with the yoghurt, za’atar, garlic and olio. Taste and season with salt and pepper.

vegan / dairy-free – replace yoghurt with 3 tablespoons each tahini and extra virgin olive oil.

can’t find za’atar – use 1 tablespoon each ground cumin and sesame seeds.

different veg – lovely with roast carrots or sweet potato instead.


slow roasted lamb shoulder

Moorish Baby Spinach & Pine Nut Salad

I love to serve a salad as a side because I can get it all ready in advance and just toss at the last minute. If you’d like to stretch your lamb further and keep costs down, serving with something carby like warm flat bread or roast potatoes is a good idea.

I don’t normally use a lot of dried fruit, but love the little bursts if sweetness from the currants here.

Enough for 4
2 tablespoons sherry or rice wine vinegar
2 tablespoons soy sauce
small currants or raisins, optional
2 packets washed baby spinach leaves (about 200g / 7oz)
2 handfuls pine nuts

1. Combine vinegar, soy sauce, currants, if using, and 4 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil in a large salad bowl. Season.

2. Toss in leaves.

3. Serve with pine nuts sprinkled over.

different leaves – feel free to use any salad leaf here. Finely sliced kale is also good.

nut-free – skip the pinenuts or replace with toasted bread crumbs.

warm salad – warm the olive oil in a small saucepan before tossing in the dressing.

can’t find sherry vinegar? – use white wine vinegar or lemon juice instead.

With love,
Jules x

ps. Do you have any tips for stress-free entertaining? I’d love to hear about them in the comments below…

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Susan Raven November 19, 2013 at 9:06 am

Thanks for that. I tend to cook simple meals when entertaining these days and they always are appreciated though I often find myself apologizing for it being a simple meal – a habit I need to change. In days gone by I would have spent ages in the kitchen preparing, so I guess its a hangup from the 80’s when you did that or were seen as not measuring up. So glad as a society we have gone back to basics – or at least most of us have. Good nourishing food is always appreciated. Thanks.


Lynne Warren November 19, 2013 at 9:12 am

Cheers for the reminder! I consistently fall into the trap of starting small and ending big. Love the look of the beet sauce. Got a dinner party this weekend and shall make use of it! A quick question – my sister-in-law has gone paleo and has asked me to make salads for Christmas lunch. Do you have any ideas?


jules December 3, 2013 at 2:00 pm

Hi Lynne

You could try the salad here… pretty much any salad is fine for the paleo crowd as long as it’s not grain based… Have a look through the stonesoup salad recipe index!


Trevor Huxham November 19, 2013 at 9:13 am

Love all these recipes you’ve provided, Jules—I’m looking forward to trying your beet sauce. What caught my eye, though, was the salad, as it reminded me of the typical Catalan dish “espinacs amb panses i pinyols,” a lightly-stir-fried mix of spinach, pine nuts, and raisins! Cooked or fresh, they’re all a great flavor combination either way. :)


jules December 3, 2013 at 1:59 pm

Good spotting Trevor!

The salad was inspired by my time in the beautiful city of Barcelona ;)


Larry Isaac November 19, 2013 at 9:56 am

I think the beet sauce sounds out of this world and, certainly, I shall make it with the slow roasted lamb for Thanksgiving (USA) but will add small chunks of goat cheese folded in just before serving.
I also add a small teaspoon of za’atar along with a jalapeno to my hummus.


jules December 3, 2013 at 1:58 pm

Jalapeno with hummus Larry? Wow!


Kathy November 19, 2013 at 11:08 am

Jules, you’re a life saver. I’m way out of practice at entertaining and was planning slow roast lamb for a dinner this coming Sunday, thanks for the simple yet inspiring ideas to go with.


jules December 3, 2013 at 1:57 pm

Pleasure Kathy!


rita November 19, 2013 at 11:23 am

Please send the recipe for the cauliflower and pomgranade salad too. Thanks.


jules December 3, 2013 at 1:57 pm

Will add it to my list Rita!


nickywaywrites November 19, 2013 at 12:10 pm

Great story, and great recipes. I often get carried away too! I’ll try these next time.


Lucy November 19, 2013 at 7:20 pm

That stressed me out by just reading. My easy tips are different for each season but its winter so here they are

• always a hot starter.. Use the oven though and pop it in as the guests arrive.
• always offer mulled cider/ wine when people arrive and have this in slow cooker one so its ready and stays hot for people.
•use a slow cooker two for main and serve with one carb and one veg. Put the carb in when you sit down to starter.
• pre prepare the pud and make sure the cheese is under a dome from before the guests arrive.
•and always get people a but tipsy, that way they loose track of time and don’t know what it’s supposed to be like ;)


jules December 3, 2013 at 1:54 pm

love your last tip Lucy!


Irene November 19, 2013 at 11:42 pm

I’m not used to cooking lamb shoulder. How do you carve and serve that?


jules December 3, 2013 at 1:56 pm

Hi Irene

Because it’s super tender you can either slice or just pull it apart with two forks (like pulled pork). The downside to shoulder is that there are lots of bones so it is a bit tricky to carve. That being said it’s one of my favourite cuts of meat.

Great question!


Cristina November 20, 2013 at 12:45 am

I love all the recipes! I am definitely going to make them all!
This may sound a bit silly but how you warm the lamb if you have let it cool? Browning it will not be enough, will it?


jules December 3, 2013 at 1:54 pm

Hi Cristina!

Yes it will warm through in the oven when you’re browning… if you’ve taken it straight out of the fridge allow an extra 10-15 minutes



Zola Spud November 20, 2013 at 6:25 am

Roast pistachios? Pray tell! x


jules December 3, 2013 at 1:57 pm

I just get them from my favourite veggie shop Zola… a bit lazy but they’re so good!



Jo Kwek November 20, 2013 at 6:43 am

Thank you for this! Saved my (entertaining) life!


Nao November 25, 2013 at 7:56 pm

Great tips, Jul! Love the spinach and pinenut salad xoxo


Ashh December 4, 2013 at 10:45 am

I noticed that you used the meat directly out of the bag. I also saw this in one of your recipes involving chicken thighs. Do you not wash them before cooking? Just curious if it is not needed?


jules December 10, 2013 at 5:53 pm

Hi Aash

No I never wash meat. It’s going to get cooked so no need.

and washing just takes extra time and there’s also the risk of spreading raw meat juices on the way to and from the sink.

Great observation!


Sonja December 4, 2013 at 10:46 pm

I love to make lasagna. Everybody loves it, and I can pop it in the oven and clean up the kitchen before the guests arrive.

Jules, I really like how you are always adding alternatives for your recipes. What meat besides lamb (e.g. beef?) could I use and does it need the same cooking time? Thanks.


jules December 10, 2013 at 5:49 pm

Great question Sonja!

I’d use beef brisket or pork shoulder if lamb isn’t your thing



jules December 10, 2013 at 5:50 pm

and they’ll take about the same time… maybe slightly less for brisket and slightly more for pork shoulder…


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