Do you want to change but just can’t seem to make it happen?
Here’s the truth:
You don’t have to believe you can change in order to make the change.
I used to be stuck too.
Stuck at a weight I didn’t love.
Stuck in the wine-drinking identity of a former winemaker who saw herself as “a big booze hound.”
I had no idea if I could actually become someone different.
But I was so dissatisfied with my current reality that I was willing to try.
And here’s what I discovered about getting unstuck.
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The Four Steps to Getting Unstuck
1. Decide What You Want
This isn’t about believing you can do it. It’s just about getting clear on what you actually want. Let yourself dream from a place of “if anything was possible and there would be no downside.”
2. Choose a Process to Follow
You need more than just motivation. You need an actual concrete process. Something proven that someone else has used successfully.
There’s no point in making yourself miserable to 6 weeks with some juice cleanse only to end up heaver a few months later.
3. Experiment and Tweak
Here’s where most people give up. They try something once, it doesn’t work perfectly, so they quit.
But change requires experimentation. Some things will work well. Others need adjusting. Expecting an experimental phase is actually a smart strategy because then you’re less likely to get disappointed and quit.
The Four Steps to Getting Unstuck
1. Decide What You Want
This isn’t about believing you can do it. It’s just about getting clear on what you actually want. Let yourself dream from a place of “if anything was possible and there would be no downside.”
2. Choose a Process to Follow
You need more than just motivation. You need an actual concrete process. Something proven that someone else has used successfully.
There’s no point in making yourself miserable to 6 weeks with some juice cleanse only to end up heaver a few months later.
3. Experiment and Tweak
Here’s where most people give up. They try something once, it doesn’t work perfectly, so they quit.
But change requires experimentation. Some things will work well. Others need adjusting. Expecting an experimental phase is actually a smart strategy because then you’re less likely to get disappointed and quit.
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4. Repeat Until You Get Your Result
Keep deciding. Keep checking in. Is this process working? If yes, great. If not, choose a new one.
Real Examples From My Life
Weight: I got to my ideal weight and maintained it for seven years now. When the scale goes up after a trip, I know exactly what to do. No drama. Just intentional eating, listening to my body, and it’s back to normal in a day.
Alcohol: I went from wine-loving winemaker to someone who genuinely can take it or leave it. I can’t remember the last time I had a hangover.
And get this—in Melbourne recently, I actually chose a second glass of non-alcoholic sparkling tea over wine because I preferred it. That blows my mind.
I didn’t believe these changes were possible when I started.
But I was willing to try.
Your Home Play This Week
Grab your journal (or a scrap piece of paper) and answer these questions:
If anything was possible and there would be no downside, what do you want in your relationship with food?
How do you want to feel in your body?
What weight would you like to be this time next year?
Is there anything else you want to change with food, your body, or other aspects of your health?
If you’re not a journaler, try verbal journaling. Go for a walk and just talk out loud to yourself. There’s something powerful about hearing your own words through your ears.
You’ll be surprised at what comes up.
Have a delicious week!
In your corner
Jules xx
(Your favourite Australian Food Scientist)
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